Perception – my 9 tips on how to stay calm

In the dictionary, perception means:

the ability to see, hear, or become aware of something through the senses”

OR

“the way in which something is regarded, understood, or interpreted”

And, much easier, is my definition:

our own Personal reality“

What that basically means is that each one of us can look at the same situation or event and take away something completely different to anyone else! There are tons of studies done where something is staged – a robbery in the park for example – and when all the eyewitnesses are interviewed afterwards, not any two stories are the same. So, depending on where you are ‘at’ on your personal path in life, determines what you will perceive. In other words; depending on your age, your past, your present, your upbringing, your family, your friends, your religion, your class, your ethnic background, your job, your partner, your kids, your education (and I could go on and on and on here…but I think you get my drift) that you have accumulated as experiences in what we call ‘your boot’ (your subconsciousness); will determine how you look at anything, process it and then make a conclusion. All your accumulated experiences are stored up and become the lens with which you use to ‘see’ everything through. Without you even being aware of it, they all form a filter with which you process.

He was saying that the circumstances are the same for everybody, but how you choose to see it is what makes all the difference. Right now, the entire planet is going through the exact same thing. The situation that we are all facing right now virus does not care about who or what you are. It does not know your age, your past, your present, your upbringing, your family, your friends, your religion, your class, your ethnic background, your job, your partner, your kids, your education and so on. We are all facing the same circumstances…but what will help you is how you choose to look at it.

I have studied Applied Kinesiology and through that I learnt that every single thought we have will either strengthen or weaken us. Through muscle testing I can tell with your body’s response to me if you’re telling a lie, which would give me negative feedback – muscle weakness – or if you’re telling me the truth, which will give me positive feedback – muscle strength. Our thoughts are what create our feelings and emotions and then they in turn create our physical experiences. If our thoughts and actions that are not tuned into LOVE (positivity), they will cause fearful emotions which will create illness in our bodies. When we are in this state, we prevent inspiration from getting through to us. Inspiration is our key to keeping ourselves calm during this very crazy and uncertain time and it’s the tool that’ll help us to open our minds to find new solutions to the unique problems that we are facing right now. It is your duty now in this time to question everything – even your own perception – and to do that you need to clean the lens you look through and adjust your own filter by challenging your own mind and by becoming the dictator of your own thoughts.

I heard Oprah once say that even when it’s raining, she makes sure to remember that the sun is still shining above the clouds. Regardless of what is going on right now, it is going to be okay. The sun will shine again. Energy flows to where your attention goes. Make the deliberate effort to change any negative thought that creeps into your mind into a positive one. All the great teachers teach us that despite the current situation in our life, we have an obligation to ourselves to learn to say no to anything that is not for our highest purpose and this can be done lovingly, gently, kindly and compassionately; because at the end of the day you are dealing with yourself and the stories that you tell yourself. They also all teach us that too much living in the past creates depression & regret and too much living in the future creates stress & anxiety. The way to live a simple and easy life is to stay now in this present moment LOVINGLY. Love is the secret to every success as far as I am concerned! The decision is yours…you can choose love, or you can choose fear. Fear is the very hard path my friends and it is unfortunately the long way around to happiness; whereas love is an instant route. One simple method of connecting to love is by simply sitting, closing your eyes, taking a long and deep breath and just being grateful for being alive. Feel the gratitude, feel the love for yourself & your body and feel your heartbeat inside of your chest. Regardless of what you have gone through in the past, you are here. You survived. You are alive. You made it! The life you are living is a pure blessing and a great gift – not just too you, but you yourself are the greatest gift that you give to the rest of the world!

There is so much going on in all of our lives right now! We personally have family where their entire household all lost their jobs in one week because of lock downs. Others who have been told they will not receive any pay for this month because no work has been done, which means no income was generated. More who have been informed of pending job cuts and they are left in lurch as to whether they have a job to go back to or not. Yet even more family who have been forced to put off huge affairs like their wedding! I personally know people who have been out and arrested for various reasons. We also have businesses that are standing and not earning an income at all with employees that we are worried about paying at the end of the month. There are family that we help to feed but also need to put food on our own table. We have a bond to pay, school fees to pay, car payments to make etc. etc. Does any or some of this sound similar to you? Well, our sanity lies in the knowing that we are all in the exact same place together. When we can turn our attention away from ourselves and turn our inner light to shine on others, then maybe inspiration can find us. How we can do that is by adjusting our perception. When we move away from self-pity that only makes us feel like a victim, we can move into becoming a victor by contemplating our own belief systems.

My point is this…

There is only one decision for you to make and that is how you choose to respond to the events that are happening in your life right now.

That is what is going to make the difference for you and determine if you make or break it.

There is no way you can control what is happening on our planet at the present moment, but you can control how you react to it! Sometimes that just means becoming comfortable with not knowing what is going to happen. Spending your time and energy worrying about an outcome that you have no way of predicting is just going to make you sick and it will literally do nothing else. There is zero positivity to be had in worry and that has a very negative reaction on your body. The only thing left to ‘do’ is release the fear, let go of the worry and trust in this process we call life. You will live through it remember! If we live our lives around LOVE – which is the highest vibrating energy in the universe – love for ourselves, our families, our friends, our communities, our provinces, our countries, the environment, the planet, all of humankind and all of creation; then we’ll remove all the negativity, chaos and disorder that stops us creating better lives. That is how we will change our personal reality and attract inspiration!

Here are some of my tips on how to remain calm during the massive change that we are all going through right now:

Hope and fear cannot occupy the same space at the same time. Invite one to stay”

Maya Angelou

Yours in Kindness,

And please, please share with anyone who may need some inspiration!