The Power of Intention

What is the definition of the word intention because the meaning may vary for each one of us, based on our personal interpretations?

The exact definition in the Cambridge Dictionary is,

something that you want and plan to do

a thing intended; an aim or plan”

Similar – aim, purpose, intent, objective, object, goal, targeted

I personally resonate more with the Webster definition which is,

what one intends to do or bring about”

Bring about is exactly what sits well with me. We all think and do things based on what we want to ‘bring about’ for ourselves and in our lives. That is why our intention in everything is so personal and unique to each one of us.

All the great books talk about intention in one way or another. The Divine Beloved knows deep down in our souls why we do, say and act the way we do in every scenario. We have all heard the stories of one going to a place of worship yet going home and beating a loved one. It is a contradiction on intention in our eyes…acting one way in front of people but being completely different when out of sight.

I personally believe that we are all fallible merely because we are all human. The only way we can learn and grow usually is through making mistakes. The bigger the mistake, the larger the growth spurt. If you thought only your kids go through growing pains, I apologise for being the bearer of bad news! The only time we can get comfortable with the realisation that we learn until the day we die is by accepting it. Embrace the fact with open arms and change your mindset to one of being at peace with it. Ultimately, it’s all in how you view things and then decide to move forward.

My personal story with intention

One of my triggers is pretentiousness.

I am a very direct, honest and blunt person.

My intention is never harsh, but because most people don’t air their dirty laundry, I am usually seen as rude or abrupt.

And, as a result, I am usually judged rather harshly. Luckily, it changes once they get to know me.

My previous boss used to joke about how I couldn’t “get a hint”. And, I just don’t. Hints tend to go straight over my head and I literally do not understand them. I used to think everyone was like me and just spoke their truth. Obviously adulting and life experience has taught me differently – but the lesson came with a lot of heartache and tears. I honestly just never understood why people would pretend to like me or get on with me. However, I have learnt the lesson and how to adjust.

Needless to say, when I do cotton on (or get advised) on how someone is being pretentious with me or my family, my ugly demon rears her monstrous head.

Life is just too short for shitty relationships…I am sorry, but that is my truth. I don’t want to have those kinds of relationships nor those kind of people in my life quite honestly. It is fake, unreal and not worth my time. They are ‘hard work’ and I tell all my life coaching clients that the minute anything feels like ‘hard work’, that is your signal that whatever it is simply is not meant for you. We receive signs all the time if we veer off of our correct paths. It’s all a matter of listening. When we refuse to pay attention, that is when we are brought to our knees and cycles repeat themselves.

What I did about it

Respectfully, you may say, what if it is a necessity? Say a family member. Or a partner of someone you do not want to lose.

Fortunately, I have reached the age and the part in my life where I refuse to go or be with anyone where I am not celebrated for being me.

I am better than just being ‘tolerated’ and I can also accept that I am just not everyone’s cup of tea. I mean, we cannot please everyone all of the time. That’s impossible and life would be so boring if everybody were the same as us. What I can do is let whomever in my family have their own relationships with those who don’t like me…and not take it personally. I can make the choice of being bigger than any insecurity and it’s not my business what other’s think or feel about me anyway.

I wrote previously about ‘When they turn their back & walk away’ which was my personal story of my sister writing me off.

Since that incidence happened, she has apologised to me twice…BUT with the wrong intention, so everything went south unfortunately and we still have no relationship today.

She chose to apologise to me to mend her relationships with the other members of my family. Her apology was not because I am her sister and she wanted to mend the relationship. Or that she felt she had done wrong. She had ulterior motives – which I was unaware of at the time.

However, I know her well and when I confronted her about her actions – and not her words – it all blew up and went to hell. When I questioned her motives and placed my boundaries, she lost her temper.

I honestly believe that when we say one thing but mean another in our hearts, it will show in our actions because we are not being our true authentic selves. It’s like our soul screams out silently and the body protests regardless of what our lips are saying.

There are tell-tale signs, you just need to learn what they are and then you won’t ever be confused again as to why people say one thing but do another. I myself refuse to accept people or relationships that are not 100% authentic any longer.

Have you ever heard of the four agreements written by Don Miguel Ruiz? I love this book and try to live by it daily. In fact, I remind myself each morning about the four principles. The first agreement is “Be impeccable with your word” and speaks about using your word for truth. So, why do we lie to others then?

For some form of personal gain obviously. My sisters were that she craved the relationships she had with my family, but not me. She felt that she had lost everyone because of her falling out with me, so she thought that if she apologised to me, she could gain them back. Not once did she consider that she herself had pulled away from them and that maybe – because of stories she had made up in her mind that she told herself and believed -she hadn’t actually lost anyone. I honestly believe that you can say what you please with your tongue, but you cannot hide your true intention from God/The Divine Beloved/The Universe…or even yourself.

Just as lies have little legs and catch up with you eventually, so does poor intentions get revealed too!

So how do you know when someone has ill intentions?

I very strongly believe that we cannot fool spirit. Our souls know when someone is not being true, and we feel uncomfortable around them. My advice is that you learn to trust your intuition again. We were all born with that ‘gut feel’ ability. It is a warning system that has been gifted to us from The Great Divine Beloved. Use it and it will protect you from many things.

• Pay attention to people’s body language. When they are speaking to you, are their arms crossed or are they open and relaxed?
• Are they comfortable around you? Do they maintain eye contact or are their eyes darting all over the show when they speak?
• How do you feel around them? Is your feeling one of comfort or unease?
• How do they behave around you? Do they say one thing and do the complete opposite?

The second you feel unease, do not let anyone try to convince you otherwise. Trust in yourself again. You will never lead you astray! Be your true authentic self and the ones that genuinely love you will accept all of you. They will stay. And hang out permanently. Also, we reap what we sow. Make the number one rule in your life “pure intention”.

If you are going to use people, then there is zero room left to complain when someone uses you.

If you’re going to lie, then shed no tears over someone lying to you. And so on for anything.

Intention applies to everything. My advice is that before you do or say anything, ask if you’d like it done or said to you.

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Yours in kindness,
Taz