Attitude – 2 ways to live your life

What is attitude all about?

Albert Einstein said,

“There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”

What is the difference? It’s simply your attitude. I end all my life coaching programs with four simple words. Everything is a choice. Absolutely everything! You get to choose how you think, act and what morals and beliefs you adopt. What you say, do; how you respond, react; what career you go into, what car you drive, what home you live in. To get married, have kids…and on and on the list goes.

Unfortunately, we live in a world where the ‘norm’ is to either blame something or someone outside of ourselves for anything not going the way we want it too. We think that someone or something outside of us needs to happen for us to be happy. The world is not here to make us happy. The world is here to make us conscious, and we get to make the decision to be happy regardless of what is going on around us. It’s our attitude about everything that makes us happy!

We are born and given an identity.

Then we spend the rest of our lives defending those deep core beliefs to the death without questioning if that is actually what or who we are! What we believe in. We all have a life path. A final destination. Free will means that you get to choose whether you’re going to take the long route, or the short route to that destination. Either way, you’ll get there. But, the quality of your journey could be vastly different, depending on your choices and decisions. Easy or challenging? Only you get to choose and decide. You must start taking responsibility for your life, who you have become and what or where you are right now. And it starts with an attitude adjustment.

What if you don’t like who or where you are?

Just simply make the decision to change it. Yes, it is indeed that simple and easy! Change your mind and attitude about anything in your life and you will change your life.

“A Course of Miracles” teaches us that there are only two emotions in all the world. LOVE AND FEAR.

All other emotions (which ultimately create all your experiences) – such as anger; hate; joy; peace – are spinoffs of those two emotions. If you dig deeply, you will see how your dislike for anything can be sourced all the way back to – and are rooted in – fear. Fear of change is one of the biggest obstacles we as humans face. We live in a constant ever-changing universe, yet we fear change as if it’s not a normal part of life. We aim for stability and security, yet

It is never crowded along the extra mile”

Wayne Dyer

How do you achieve greatness if you are not willing to step out of your comfort zone of security and stability?

So, for example, a husband checks out a pretty lady and flirts a little in a pass by comment with her in front of his wife. The wife’s jealousy rages and boils over. Why? Maybe he’s had an affair in the past. and her jealousy is a spin off from her fear that he’ll cheat on her again. Or someone finds themself living in complete bliss – the life of their dreams. It is heaven on earth in every way and they have achieved all of their life goals. Are they just special? Lucky or blessed? It could be pure and unconditional self-love. Or love for life in general because they hit that pocket of living in the lightness of being through acceptance, forgiveness and approval.

My point?

Everyone has challenges. The difference between someone blessed and someone struggling is their perception. Their attitude toward those struggles and blessings. There is A LOT of research done on the ‘Placebo Effect’ or ‘Sham Surgery’ available on Google – go check it out in order to see for yourself exactly how immensely powerful your mind is.

Whenever a decision needs to be made – especially those massive life changing ones that we all seem to be faced with during this crazy, ever-changing time on our planet – make the simple decision to choose love over fear. Look at your scenario in the bigger picture. Contemplate on it – peel it away like the layers of an onion – and keep asking yourself “why?” to get to the root of it.

If you are the woman whose husband cheated and your life has been turned upside down, how do you possibly choose love over fear when he has broken your trust? That decision of love could be self-love. Don’t stay for the sake of the children or because you may be penniless. Don’t stay for anyone else. That’s your fear talking to you. Stay only for yourself if that is what you genuinely want. The action of staying or leaving should be the decision of love that you choose for yourself. Make sure all of your decisions are you deciding that love far outweighs any fears.

And what if you’re scared mindless?

Do it anyway!

We ALL feel that way. Life can be damn scary! They say our greatest growth comes from our suffering. That’s why we have struggles. To grow. Because you were never meant to stagnate. Stagnation ultimately means death. Face your fears and do it anyway. You become fearless by doing the things that frighten you. You expand by going to the very edge and facing your fears. It is exhilarating. So, learn to embrace and trust your own personal transformation, because when you do; you’ll come to see that your fears were mostly invalid anyway.

Almost twelve years ago I was working in the corporate world. Travelling two hours a day to work and back and not seeing much of my little baby at all. Worked to the bone, stressed, anxious and – quite frankly – completely miserable and making my whole family miserable along with me! My boss sent me on a woman’s day retreat that one of our suppliers had offered. I actually didn’t want to go, but he forced me to go by insisting that someone had to represent our company. It turned out to be me being in the exact place at the perfect time that changed my life forever.

I listened to a motivational speaker that day and all I remember her saying was,

Take a leap of faith!”

and something inside of me just clicked! I went home and told my husband that I was done with the corporate world. With my job. That I was resigning. His response was simply, “Awesome. Whatever makes you happy my love.” Little did I know at the time that we were apparently on the verge of losing our home! I had no idea because he never said a word to me in that conversation. So, in essence, we both took a leap of faith together!

Today we are blessed abundantly! I am no longer the “monstrous b*tch” my kids called me back then and I honestly believe it was because we faced our fears and walked right through them. You can only do that with and through love. Is that not what faith is at the end of the day? Love? Self- love. Self-worth. Self-empowerment. There are no shortcuts. No under. Or over. Not even around. You have to go through!

But what if you make a mistake?

So what? What if there is no such thing as a mistake? What if you chose to change your attitude and decided to see your mistakes as growth spurts instead? Who said anything was set in stone? You are an adult. You have the right to change your mind about anything at any time! All you need to do is accept the consequences of those decisions once you’ve made them. Don’t like the consequences afterwards? Change your mind again! We live by the societal dysfunctional belief that as adults we are not allowed to make mistakes. I call bull! We are human. Being human means that we are fallible. We ALL mess up. Why not try accepting that you misjudged and just move on by changing your mind? Why not change the norm of crucifying yourself because your decision no longer serves you and now you want to change your mind?

Everything here is for your own personal benefit.

To help you grow. There is no wrong or bad for you. Incorrect, wrong, bad are human concepts. Man created language and words to describe what he thinks is ‘negative’. That’s not Divine law. You can try something, and if it doesn’t work out, just make another personally beneficial decision. Change your mind and change your life remember!

The entire universe is completely and utterly in love with you! It will support you in every way and it will absolutely always show up for you. It just can’t make your mind up for you. Your mind’s job is to think. But your job is to tell your mind what to think! You are the infinitely powerful co-creator of your life. If you view that as good, then it will be. However, if you view your choices as bad, then it will be that too. You will absolutely always get what you expect to get!

We all think we know everything at any given time. We all hate admitting we are wrong. All of that can change just by simply changing your attitude and having a mind that is open to everything.

I’ll end by asking you to push your boundaries and go and do something today that makes you uncomfortable! All that is required is that you change your attitude and the story you tell yourself about it. Instead, tell yourself that it will be simple and easy to do and just go for it!

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